Meschiya Lake is one of New Orleans’ most adored female vocalists. She plays tirelessly around town with her Little Big Horns, charming crowds with dulcet tones, all the while keeping the true spirit of jazz alive in a city full of sound-same wannabes. The Little Big Horns are spending much of the next two months touring abroad (in Brazil and then Europe) but when in town, you can always catch them at one of their weekly shows: Mondays at Mimi’s and Tuesdays at Spotted Cat. Lake plays at Chickie Wah Wah on Wednesdays with Tom McDermott and her Little Big Quartet keeps it classy at the Windsor Court Hotel bar on Thursdays. This tatted stunner graciously agreed to field our readers’ August advice queries.
I have a problem with jealousy. How do you combat that shit?
Beat up the hoe that’s hitting on your man! But seriously, I think jealousy stems from insecurity—from a detected threat to your relationship, real or otherwise. And I also think it’s natural, but if it’s causing you to act out or treat your partner differently, then you need to step back and look at the reality of the situation. Try to calmly and rationally think before you act or speak out. Jealousy has ruined many relationships. Don’t let it get in the way of the love!
Why is everyone so into sports here? Having just moved to New Orleans a few months ago, it’s making me feel like an outcast because I don’t really care about the Saints (I know, sorry!!!) or any of the other teams… Where are all the non-sports lovers in this town?
The Saints aren’t so much a sports team here as a way of life. We take that shit very seriously. I’ve never been much into sports myself and if I was gonna pick one to follow, honestly, it would be baseball. But the Saints winning the Super Bowl saved the morale of this town at a very critical time. New Orleans loves its Saints and I must admit, going to a bar crowded with fanatics during a game is like going to church. It’s exhilarating when we win and depressing when we don’t but hey, at least you can drink your sorrows away. The outcome of the game really determines the mood of our entire city. My advice to you is to let yourself get swept up in it. If you just can’t get into the game, you can get caught up with how everyone around you is feeling. Join your fellow New Orleanians. That’s what I did. Worked for me. That shit is awesome.
What’s the best way to tell your new boyfriend that your period is late?
Are you just late or preggers? Take a test. If it’s negative, you don’t have to tell him anything, unless you want too. If it’s positive, two words: I’m pregnant. Other phrases that might also work are “You’re gonna be a daddy” or “You owe me some money.”
